BEWARE OF ‘HOSTILE’ & CON FRIENDS WHO WILL NEVER PAY DEBTS

Stay real, stay loyal, or stay away from me.

Have you ever been conned by a close friend, confidante or a family member? Are you gullible & obvious? Do you hate disappointing people especially the one you care about? This article will change your life by helping you to understand the mind of conman.

For the last 3 years, I have been struggling to deal with close friends who will never pay debts. On Dec 2015, I lent my ‘two friends’ approx. Kshs 6,000 to help them out with some money issues at the time, both friends had promised to pay the money in 2 days. Six months later, the guys have never repaid even a single coin, ignored my calls, text messages & even blocked me on Whatsapp.

I have learnt that people like this are empty inside, have a limited emotional development, under-developed sense of fairness, manipulative and often see other people as pawns to be used and played - not human beings. They feel entitled to have whatever they want and no method of trying to obtain it is off limits - whether it's by manipulation, deception, or outright theft.

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When you politely request for repayment, they would rather duck & dodge you. Personal relationships and reputation don't matter to them because they can always find someone else to mooch off of in the future. As soon as they're done with you, they'll find someone else out of 8 billion others that they can take advantage of.

The saddest & most frustrating bit about this kind of betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies. Most of these con men and women are people who you treasure dearly, friends you have known for several years or family members. The ‘fellas’ know you well & understands that you are gullible, obvious, caring and you hate disappointing people who you care about. In fact, most of them think that you are stupid! As a result, the cons take advantage of your loyalty to exploit, abuse and steal from you.

How do I deal with these hypocrites? The best way to deal with these loyalty terrorists is to get good at identifying these fake friends, shame and avoid them. Learn to say NO because the people who are often used and manipulated, are the ones who are afraid to disappoint other people in all the aspects. It's not your job to impress the world. Otherwise, you'll end up being disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you.

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As one who has been betrayed by close friends, I can attest to the fact that I'm no longer the person I once was. Life has taught me that you can't control someone's loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn't mean that they will treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn't mean that they'll value you the same. Sometimes the people you trust most turn out to be the people you can trust the least.

Still struggling with friends who have betrayed you in the past? Don’t worry, these lessons will come to you as you age! PEACE.

Silvano Ngacha is a passionate blogger well versed in Web designing, software development, Search Engine Optimization and Social Media Marketing. He loves to write posts for his blog in his spare time. Besides Blogging, he is interested in reading, socializing, traveling and horse riding. Twitter handle: @silvanongacha

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