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| Ten 'commandments' for Campus Lovers |
Remember the Cindy Lauper song, “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun”? Well, it turns out she was right. College freshman is in their first steps away from home. Dating just makes school fun for some people. So, please don’t take things so seriously. It’s okay if you don’t have a good morning message every morning or lunch dates in the afternoon. Just sit back and enjoy the ride of dating in this first semester of college.
2.Find Free Time
Free time is going to be most of the time depending on credit hours and work schedules. Sit down with your mate and schedule a time for just you and him/her to hang out. Use this free time to go on dates, study, or just walk around campus. Whatever floats your make sure you have special time for that special someone.
3.Enjoy Your Own Friends
While #2 is very true. It is also very important to enjoy your friends outside of your mate. The college experience is all about having great friends. Don’t get so consumed in your relationship that you forget to enjoy yourself. Go party or to the football games without your mate a few times. By doing this you are creating your own identity.
4.Don’t Solely Be Friends With Your Mates Friends
Please understand that your mates friends are your mates friends FIRST. They will always have their friends back before yours. Don’t get too close to him/hers friends. You don’t want to be the clingy one in the relationship, your mates friends will talk about you. This is where #3 kicks in. Spending time with your own friends relieves conflict. For example, spending the night in your “bae” dorm every night for 3 nights could get annoying to their roommate. Because you’re in college everybody is in close corners with each others. People need people to sit with at lunch, go shopping with, and even dorm sizes are tight. So don’t be that person that thinks their mates best friend is also their best friend.
5.Understand College Budget
Being in college comes with a lot of discounts. Ladies, don’t get offended when your mate takes you to Kshs 120 bowling night. Yes, you are worth more than that, but money is funny in college. Understand your mates struggle. If you can be with him/her in their broke time, then they’ll keep you around for their rich time. Just be patient for your rides to the most prestigious hotel in Nairobi. It’ll come soon enough.
6.The first Semester Is Crucial – STUDY!
People say “If you can make it through the first year of college, you can make it through all four years.” The statement has a lot of truth to it but first get through the first semester. You don’t want to be the one that fail’s college. Show up to class and study. Passing your classes is priority before your relationship. College cost too much to fail.
7.Don’t Judge
Judging a book by its cover is fairly easy. For instance, there may be a guy who says he wants to be a doctor yet you look at his lifestyle and attire and wouldn’t dare let him operate on you. Understand that people like to be free away from home. Just because they act or dress a certain kind of way doesn’t mean they aren’t smart or relationship material. Accept people for who they are. You’ll will never know what you find deep down inside.
8.Define Netflix and Chill
In 2016, we are in a Netflix and chill state. Netflix in the dorm with some popcorn sounds like a nice time. However, everybody knows Netflix and chill dates aren’t Netflix and chill. Sometimes it can be used for code for something completely different. So before chilling with potential bae ask what kind of Netflix and Chill is this?
9.Follow Visitation Laws
Campuses have laws that specify times for visitors, especially of the opposite sex. Some schools don’t allow overnight visitation or visitation after a certain time. If caught pass their designated times a fine could be put on you and your partner. Just stay on the safe side and avoid the fine. Follow your schools rules!
10. Do You!
College is about finding yourself. Do just that. Enjoy your alone time and your bae time. Get to know what you do and don’t like. Just do you!
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